Thursday, September 25, 2008

What a whirlwind!

It seems that life has been non-stop for the last couple of months. Sierra started school at the end of August. Then James ended up in the ER with chest pains which turned out to be pleurisy (a complication of pneumonia). He was sick for a few weeks. Then he had a golf tournament for our ABF that he helped plan. Then we had the fair, which is a must do here in Wayne county. Then we had Raquel's birthday. Mix all that with regular stuff like church, small group, and family and we have been busy. I feel that I am finally getting into a routine though. It seems like as the girls are getting older I spend less and less time "at home" as a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM).
Tuesdays I have begun attending a Connecting in Christ Bible Study at our church. We are doing a Beth Moore study on the gospel of Luke. We had our first session this past Tuesday and I think that this study is just what I need right now. I was in a really great Bible study in Michigan before we moved down here (I miss you Kirsten, April, Marcia, & Amy!). It has been really hard for me to get into the Word consistently without that weekly accountablity. The study has five days of "homework" per week that take about 30 minutes each day. That is surely some motivation for me (as the over-achiever student it is hard for me to leave homework undone).
On Wednesdays I take Raquel to the library for story time. This is her first experience with the concept. Sierra went for years at our small (and I really mean small) library in Michigan. When I told the librarian there that we were moving to Ohio she said that Ohio is "library mecca" as the libraries here are funded like few others in the country. I guess that is true as our town has just built a huge new building and has a great children's department. Sometimes I miss the intimacy of our small town library though.
Fridays are my day to go grocery shopping and Raquel and I usually make a fun morning out of it. Sometimes I will take her out to breakfast before we head to the store. We always go to the Wal-mart Supercenter and Aldi and sometimes others depending on what we need that week. Here I must put in a plug for those reusable bags that most stores are selling now. I bought mine at a year ago at Beuhler's a local grocery store. I love them because they hold about 3x what those cheap plastic bags hold and they are easier to carry. Mine have a little hook so they hook right onto the holders that hold the plastic bags at the store. This makes it much easier for the cashiers to fill them. Before I found these bags I was actually considering making my own because I couldn't find any that would be easy on the cashiers (this was a requirement as I was once a Wal-mart cashier myself). I will step off my soapbox now...
I am going to try to do a better job updating this blog. I am trying out a new schedule at home and will actually put blogging time into it. :) I have been sewing a lot lately and will probably do a post about that as well as some books I've been reading.
Have a blessed day!

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Summertime

Please forgive my lack of blogging (at least on this blog) lately. The summer has been so busy that I feel that I cannot even keep up with the mundane, necessary tasks, let alone the fun ones like sharing my thoughts with the rest of the world. The summer has been an absolute blur. It was a lot harder than I thought it would be adjusting to Sierra being home all the time. Although she is a really good kid, I found that I really missed the time I had to be alone with Raquel in the mornings. Also, it made going anywhere that much more difficult because I had to take both of the kids with me. However, it is almost over as Sierra starts Kindergarten on Monday. I am part excited and part nervous. Part of her life will now be out of my control. Thus begins this process of letting go. I will just have to trust God to take care of her when I cannot.
I guess that I will give you a brief synopsis of our summer so that you can get caught up with what's been going on...
In June James flew down to Baton Rouge for his biological father's wedding. As is usually the case, I ran myself ragged trying to get stuff done while he was gone. I got the entire garage and the majority of the basement organized and cleaned. He was really excited to see all the work I had done.
In July the main event was Sierra's birthday. James took Sierra for her first campout the night before her birthday. It was a little hard for me having her gone because, since she was born at 12:20am, I usually stay up until that time and look in on her, but this year I couldn't. She still managed to turn five though. On her birthday we went to lunch at Bob Evans and went to the pet store to pick out her present, some fish. We wanted to get her five fish for her fifth birthday, but the associate said that our tank could only handle two right now. So she got two fish that she named Nemo and Butterfly.
The next week we had her birthday party. It was a lot of fun. You can check out our family blog to view pictures.
My grandma was here for about a week and we were able to enjoy lots of family time.
On August 5th James and I celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary. We had a appetizers at the Olde Jaol tavern, went to a movie at The Big Picture (Get Smart - pretty funny), and had a nice dinner at the Olde Jaol. James and I were both not feeling well so that put a bit of a damper on our evening, but we still had a nice time.
I will try to do a better job of keeping up. I have a few more books to write about sometime soon.
Stay tuned...

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

I apologize for my lack of blogging lately, but as many of you know we spent just over a week on vacation in Hawaii. I thought that I might be blogging from the beach, but, besides the fear of getting sand in James' laptop, I was way too busy taking pictures and video to blog. I will be posting a daily summary blog on our family blog soon, and I will blog my thoughts about the trip here at some point. In the meantime you can check out all our photos (400+) from the trip on smugmug.com (See the link "Our Photos" to the right).
With that caveat out of the way let me tell you my main reason for this post. As I was stumbling around the house this morning in my pre-coffee, jet-lagged stupor I realized that today is June 10th. While this date may not have significance to you as the reader, it was a very important date for the Dewald family. In 2005 it was the date when we closed on our first home. Little did we know that changes that would take place in three years. At that time we were living in Michigan and James had been the youth pastor at our church there for over 18 months. We had searched long and hard for a house that would meet all our needs. We needed a large room to host gatherings of youth and we also needed a guest room as all our family lived far away and needed a place to stay when they visited. We also were working with a very tight budget. We settled on a four bedroom bi-level in a nice neighborhood in Perry, Michigan. It was just 6 miles from our church. We closed on June 10th and moved in about 10 days later. We did a lot of work making the home our own.
As I said above, if we had only known the changes that would take place while living there. Two months later James was let go from his position at the church, which of course necessitated us finding a new church home (which we did the very next Sunday, BTW, at Red Cedar in Okemos ). Six weeks after that our second beautiful daughter was born. Then James, who had been working at Dick's Sporting Goods to make ends meet, found a job in the mortgage industry and proved to be very successful at it. After about 18 months the economy in Michigan started to turn south and he began to look for a position in Ohio. As soon as the position at the church was gone, our reason for being in Michigan ceased to exist. We knew that we wanted to move back to Ohio eventually, but were waiting until we could get a little equity in our house. When James was offered a position with RH Donnelley we knew that the time had come. We prayed long and hard for God to provide a buyer for our house as James began work in Ohio on June 4th 2007. We spent most of the summer separated as the girls and I were in Michigan trying to sell the house and James split his time between Ohio and North Carolina for training for his new job. By God's grace we were able to sell our house. We closed on August 13th 2007 and were finally able to be together as a family again. We lived with my parents (with most of our stuff in storage) for about six weeks until we settled on a nice duplex to rent. We moved in on September 9th. So now we are finally getting settled.
Since June 10th 2005, we have lived in three homes, gone to three churches, had three jobs, and added one child to our family (at least it wasn't three children - that would have been too much). Even though at times I've wondered "what the heck is going on here" God has always been in control. On that day in June 2005 HE knew where we would be three years later, even though I had no clue. Looking back I can see His hand in everything we faced. He held us as we cried over friends lost. He encouraged me as I locked the door on our beloved house for the last time. He provided new jobs, churches, and friends just when we needed them. I am so thankful that He knows what He is doing. Thanks Lord for being there all the time and for the many lessons you've taught me along the way!

Our home in Michigan when we purchased it

Our home in Ohio last October with James & the girls playing in the sprinkler out front

Monday, May 19, 2008

Jesus Land

Well if you read my last post you know that I have rediscovered the joy of reading of the past several months. After the Narnia series the next on the list was a memoir recommended to me by my good friend Christina. We have always enjoyed a relationship of deep thought and discussions. Although we do not always agree, she challenges my in my thinking and I really appreciate her for it. I read "The Poisonwood Bible" by Barbara Kingsolver on her recommendation several years ago (actually now that I think about it it was almost a decade ago - wow I am feeling old) and I really chewed on it for a long time. "Jesusland" by Julia Scheeres has proved to be the same. I actually had to put it down a couple of times because it was too much for me to handle. It made me so angry and sad and disgusted all at the same time. I think one of the hardest parts for me was knowing that the story was true and the author and her brother actually had to endure the things that made me physically ill. It all still haunts my mind. I was going to summarize to book here, but I figure that you can read it for yourself if you're interested. Instead I will try to tell you what I've learned from it.

1) Christianity is so much more than words. It is who you are, both in public and private. We need to strive to be examples of Christ's love in our homes first and foremost.

2) I never want to waste an opportunity to tell my children that I love them and shower them with kisses and hugs. Just reading about the distance between Julia and her mom and knowing that Julia never felt loved and appreciated by her mom makes me strive to never give my children cause to feel that way.

3) Discipline that does not strive to change the heart does not work. I already knew this one, but this book really made it hit home. When Julia and her brother were sent to the reform school they learned behavior modification very quickly. They learned to act the way that their superiors told them to act in order to make life more tolerable (if that word could describe anything at La Escuela Caribe). It did not make their hearts more open to the ways of the Lord. It anything just the opposite happened. Because of the demeaning and demoralizing punishment they were forced to endure, they actually became more antagonistic to the Lord. Discipline should always be done from true love.

4) "God is who HE says He is not who these people say He is." This is a quote taken from the website that contains people's stories about their time at one or more of New Horizon Youth Ministries reform schools (where Julia and her brother were sent). We need to hold to the truths of the Bible, not to what other people tell us or want to "shove down our throats."

5) People can do some really awful things in the name of Jesus Christ. I'm sure that some of the people who worked at these reform schools had good intentions, but their actions were not representative of what Jesus would want them to do. It is really sad to read about what was done to these children.

6) We can never assume that we know what is going on in someone else's home. Even the most wonderful looking Christian homes can hide the most horrible abuse. We should always be sensitive to the needs of children - no matter how wonderful their home life appears.

7) Racism is a sick horrible thing. Again, I already knew this one, but the book really made me take a more activist stand. We should not only strive to be accepting of all races, but work to make others more so as well.

I know that this is just a small sampling of what I have learned from this book. If you enjoying an engrossing & challenging read, please pick it up. It sure will make you think.

Narnia

So with the writer's strike that happened this winter and TV being a "reality" wasteland, I have returned to an old favorite pastime of mine: reading. What a pleasure it has been to pick up a book and allow my imagination to go to work instead of having all the colors and shapes dictated to me by my television. Always being a "read the book before you see the movie" kind of person my first quest was to read the Chronicles of Narnia series by CS Lewis. I know that it is crazy that here I am 30 years old having never read these wonderful books. Thanks to the CLEVNET inter-library loan system I finished them all over the course of a month. I really enjoyed them, although I told my husband that I wished that I had not known about the allegory (Aslan = Jesus) before reading them. I would have loved to discover that for myself and pick it apart in my brain. I found the last book the most interesting as I think that it has the most parallels to the Bible and some of Lewis' statements really made me wrestle with my ideas of eschatology, mythology, and even theology.
Last week my husband and I watched the movie about the second book "The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe" that Disney made a few years ago. I found it to be pretty true to the book. The scene where Aslan is killed by the White Witch is well done and moved me like no human rendering of the crucifixion ever has. I am excited to see "Prince Caspian," which is based on book four, soon (we were unable to get a babysitter this weekend). Friends that have seen it have said that it is very good. I know that they are making book five, "The Voyage of the Dawn Treader," to be released in 2010. That should be good too. I hope that they will go on and make the rest of the series, but only if they stick to the books. "The Silver Chair " (book 6) is a really good story about the power of evil to enslave us and of course "The Last Battle" (book 7) is awesome and beautiful. It had me in tears more times that I can remember. What a thought-provoking experience it was. So thank you Hollywood writers for helping me rediscover the joy of a good book!

Sunday, April 13, 2008

I've Been Chastised

My sister and I went shopping last night. At about 7pm we left Wooster and headed for the sprawling metropolis of Wadsworth where there happens to be a Target. I was looking for a swimsuit bottom (I had already found a top at Kohl's, but there was no matching bottom to be found) and some other clothes for our upcoming vacation and my sis was along for the ride while perhaps looking for a dress for her college graduation. We spent a long time in the dressing room and my sister found a pants, capris, shorts, and various shirts that all looked great. Guess what I walked out with...another swimsuit top without matching bottoms! If you know me at all you know how practical I am and that it is not like me to buy something that is not useful (unless it is really on clearance). Obviously I will not be wearing a swimsuit top with no bottoms, so right now they are not very practical. However, I will not be defeated! I will find swimsuit bottoms!
--On a side note, who designs these swimsuit bottoms anyway? Both of the tops I bought are mediums. When I try on bottoms that are a medium or even a large I am exposing more skin than I (or anyone else for that matter) should feel comfortable about exposing. I swear the people that design them must have absolutely no rear-end (I wanted to use that other word there, but I am not sure who reads this :) Anyhow, I digress.--
So my sister and I left Target at 9pm and headed to Kohl's. There I actually found some clothes for both me and my husband and one of my girls, but, alas, no swimsuit bottoms. My sister did find her graduation dress - a really cute one at that - and some other stuff. In all it was a very fun trip. We got back to my house at about 11:30pm both exhausted, but in a way refreshed.
So you're probably wondering about the title of the blog. Well somewhere in the course of our conversations my sister scolded me for not blogging recently. She said that she checks my blog every time she logs on and I haven't written anything new in over a month. Shame on me. So, I decided to use our trip as my topic. See Rach, you complain - you get written about :)
I do have a lot of stuff to write about. Hopefully I will be able to catch up this week. We'll see...

Tuesday, March 4, 2008

What A Week

Last Sunday (Feb 24) I started to feel a little under the weather. It wasn't any better when I woke up Monday morning, but I thought I would shake it. So my husband left for work and I took my oldest to preschool. Little did I know that by the afternoon I would have a fever of 102 and would be on the couch wrapped in blankets trying to get rid of a horrible case of chills. Thankfully my mom was able to come and get my oldest, but my youngest ended up spending about four hours in her crib until her dad came home and rescued her. Yes, I did change her diaper and give her books to look at, but I was in no shape to chase her throughout the house. She survived (no worse for the wear) and I sprawled on the couch. I knew that I wouldn't be sleeping with my husband that night (to keep him from getting sick) so I tried to get comfortable on the couch. After a horrible nearly sleepless night moving from the couch to the futon to the floor and back again, I went to the bed at about 3am and told my poor sleeping husband that I was desperate for some sleep and laid down. I couldn't sleep there either and went back out to the couch until morning. Finally, the next morning I went into the bedroom and feel asleep on our queen size bed. I ended up staying there until Saturday, getting up only to make myself food (when I could eat) and to go to the bathroom. I also took a brief trip to the Dr on Wednesday where I was told (big surprise) that I had the flu. I must have looked awful because a lady in the hallway actually offered to get me a wheelchair. It was an awful week as I had every symptom that can accompany the flu at one point or another. On Saturday James had a meeting in the morning so I told him that I felt well enough to take care of the kids for a few hours. I got up and saw the state of my house for the first time - I don't mean to insult James; he did a wonderful job taking care of the house and the kids, but I could tell that a lot had piled up in my absence - and did WAY too much. I did three loads of laundry, changed the sheets and towels, cleaned up the living room, and who knows what else. By Saturday afternoon I was having trouble breathing and called the Dr. Well, if you've ever called the nurse on call and told them you are having trouble breathing, you know that they tell you to hang up and call 911. I didn't feel that it was that urgent so James took me into the ER. The checked my vitals and gave me some Tylenol and Motion (I could have done THAT at home). They really didn't do any other tests (except to make sure I wasn't dehydrated), but the Dr said that my symptoms didn't really fit the flu exactly any more. He believed that I had developed an infection secondary to the flu. This one was likely a bacterial infection so this time I got broad spectrum antibiotics. So back to bed I went...

I'm sure that it is horrible when any mom gets sick, but I think it is especially problematic for stay-at-home moms. If I had a job outside the home, I would already have childcare arranged for my children and would just continue to take them to daycare while I recuperated. As a SAHM I don't have that option. There is no one else to take care of my children. Therefore my poor husband was left trying to come up with childcare options at the last minute. Thank you so much Mom, Heidi, Carol, Marghie, and Rachel for taking one or both of my kids while I recovered. James only ended up having to take one full day of work off. PTL!

Now it is Tuesday and I am still sick. However I am well enough to take care of the kids. I had them by myself for the first time yesterday. It went pretty well. James had gone grocery shopping (for the first time in years) and gotten some convenience-type foods for me to feed the kids so I wouldn't have to cook too much. I took it easy and spent much of the afternoon in bed. Raquel actually took a nap so I am so thankful for that. Today is another day trying to get well and get some stuff done around the house without doing so much that I relapse. We'll see how it goes. As for now my voice is still weird and when I cough it still sounds like I am going to hack up a lung, but at least I can move. Thank God for small miracles.

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Something about Wednesdays

Our youngest daughter, who is almost 2 and a half, has always been a great sleeper. I sincerely hope that she will be one of those children who takes a nap up until the time they start Kindergarten (I would not know anything about such children since my oldest stopped napping at 22 months - but I've been told that they exist). Several months ago she stopped napping for several days. I was bracing myself, thinking that she was giving up her nap. However, suddenly and inexplicably, she started napping again regularly after about ten days. So when she stopped napping last week I began to wonder if this was another "episode" or if she was actually giving it up this time. She stopped napping last Monday (2/11) and has not had a good one since, except for Wednesdays. It is the strangest thing because that is the night when we usually go to church for dinner and New Community. It is the one night that we keep them up late so if she doesn't nap it becomes unbearable. It's like she knows that she needs to take a nap those days or we will be stuck at home. So thanks Raquel for taking a nap on Wednesdays so that mommy can go to church. I appreciate it! Now if we could just go back to napping everyday...

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Life after Death (and Taxes)

(For those of you out there who are Relient K fans, yes I am aware that I stole the title for this post)

Well, as you can guess I finished the taxes. What an absolute pain. I know that I should not complain since we are getting money back, but you would think that the government would make it a little easier. I even used H&R Block Taxcut (I've got people, apparently). But the tax software doesn't actually help me determine when we stopped being Michigan residents and became Ohio residents. It was a very ambiguous experience. Anyway I think I figured out the dates that were both accurate and got us the most money back. At one point I just sat at the computer and cried. We probably should have broken down and paid an actual person, but I've always done my own taxes and it is something in which I take a lot of pride. Since I don't bring home a paycheck, it is nice for me to be able to say that I got my family some money! Next year should be a lot easier since we will have lived in the same place the entire year. Yippee! I must say however that Ohio has the coolest tax filing system. They let you do your taxes online through an interview process and then you can submit them online for FREE! Take that H&R Block! They even let me file them online with a part-year resident status. Taxcut said that I couldn't do that. Score one for the Buckeyes!

Monday, February 11, 2008

A Foray Into the Known

I've finally gotten around to making my own blog. Aren't you so proud of me? It has been a long time coming. I have my own Facebook page and my own photo website (smugmug.com - it rocks), but for some reason I haven't made the time to jump on the blogging bandwagon. My sister and a bunch of my friends have them and I've heard it's very cathartic. So here we go..

It has been a long day (aren't they all) and I decided that I deserved some computer time this evening. We had our friends Matt and Abby and their daughter Claire over for dinner this evening. It was a really fun time. We are really enjoying getting to know the people in our ABF better. It is so nice to be able to swap stories with others in the same stage of life. We ended up spending the majority of the time talking about Facebook and how cool we think it is. What a bunch of dorks we are! Earlier today I cleaned the entire house. I told James that we should have people over at least once every two weeks so that I have motivation to clean the house. I also did all the laundry. Then, of course, Raquel decided not to take a nap and had a leaky diaper all over her freshly changed sheets. It never fails! Oh the things we do for our children!

Anyway, it feels good to have gotten so much accomplished today. Maybe tomorrow I will finish the taxes. It looks like we are going to get money back so I guess I should be looking forward to it. Well, I think I am just rambling now so I will sign off. See you soon...